I had a boyfriend who inspired this quote. I didn’t write this, and surely the person who did didn’t know my boyfriend at the time, but it fits him so much that it seems like she did. He was an amazing guy. Still is. And so much more. I know so well because I married him. I get to spend my days and nights with this wonder and I am grateful.
I could have lived happily ever after in just the sheer the bliss of our dating days. Survived on the love and passion alone. We had so much fun and we thoroughly enjoyed each other and our time together. We didn’t live in the same city so when we were together it was like wild abandon to the rest of the world as we squandered away all of our time just being together, laughing, getting to know each other, falling in love at every opportunity. One day, I realized that I was tired of having to tearfully say goodbye to him and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I was hoping that he was feeling the same. He was. :0)
I just knew that marriage would provide mounds of endless happiness and multiples of all that was good about our dating relationship. I am so in love with him and I love him with so much of me but marriage is hard. It is a big thing to deny myself for the good of him daily, moment by moment. It is yet another thing to I Corinthians 13 love him. And I fail. I fail, I fail, I fail. But I keep trying.
So, the other day I was over on The Run A Muck http://therunamuck.com/ and I saw such a brilliant and life giving idea: writing marriage letters to your spouse in the post “Share the Beauty: Marriage Letters Topics” (http://therunamuck.com/2012/03/25/share-the-beauty-marriage-letters-topics/).
This may not seem like such a big deal to you, but I have tried to do things similar to this and couldn’t hang in there because it just seemed like a load to do. What Amber is suggesting is that we write to the prompts given each Monday in April. It’s a simple investment in my marriage, one of the most valuable relationships on earth to me, and I’m learning that every little gesture for my marriage is a deposit into a life giving source to the deepest parts of me. I’ll be sharing my letters each Monday either whole or in part with you here, in hopes that it will encourage you to do the same for your spouse.
For you single ladies out there, perhaps this is the time for you to write letters to God about the man you desire. Be transparent with Him about how you feel about your relationship status right now be it single, divorced, or single but in a dating relationship. Wherever you are in that journey, I can promise it’s worth waiting on Him to instruct you on what moves to make. I can say that based on my own experiences and the experiences of others that have directly or indirectly effected me. As I said, I love my man and I love being married but it’s tough sometimes. In those times when it’s hardest, it’s good to know that I have a gift given directly from the hand of my Father, even when it doesn’t feel like it. You want to know that you know that you got your mate from Him. He gives such good gifts. And I want to take care of the gifts he graces my life with.
So I’ll be a letter writing sister each Monday in April. I hope it blesses you as much as I believe it’s going to bless me, my huni and our sweet little marriage.