So, this year must be THE year to get married! Who knew!?! I have several family members and friends who have agreed and set a date to enter into covenant with another person this year. In 2012 I am a part of 5 weddings. Yep, 5. The first two of five weddings have already occurred with the most recent being one of my little brothers, thus my mysterious silence for the past two weeks. The first was for a dear Fran of mine from college. She’s probably one of the sweetest people I know and I was so honored that she has cherished our relationship through the years so much that she would desire to enter into this covenant with my prayers and support. So, I figured I’d share what I’ve been up to by sharing some of what happened with the weddings!
My Fran, Ayana, and her husband J.R.were married in Charleston, SC on July 7, 2012 at the Charleston Aquarium. She had a short, sweet ceremony with the Charleston Harbor as the backdrop. Even though there we were in the middle of the fierce July Charleston heat, there was a cool breeze blowing off from the water, at times so strong that we had to anchor ourselves or be blown away by more than just the love and beauty of it all! So, here are a few flicks from the day:
So pretty, right? And again:
Planning a wedding can be so stressful. And my dear Fran Ayana has waited a long time to meet her special someone, fall in love, don a beautiful gown and mark the start of their lives together forever with a beautiful day. It was so good to see her smiling and having such a good time that day.
My huni and I had a good time as well. I was a bridesmaid and that can keep you pretty busy but I was able to hook up with him and have some fun taking a few flicks, being our fabulous, zany selves. There we are! The fierce bridesmaid and her hot boo! (I wanted to write, “the fierce bridesmaid and her fierce boo,” but I figured he might have a problem with me using the adjective “fierce” to describe him . . . .) :0)
Another fun, fun, fun part of the weekend was hooking up with all of the other bridesmaids. You can tell a woman by her Frans, and Ayana is just so abundantly blessed because she has some WONDERFUL women flowering her life!!
A couple of the women that Ayana chose as bridesmaids, turned out to be women I knew from undergrad–which is where Ayana and I met. We went to different schools but we were in the same campus ministry and met at a retreat. (this same organization is also where I met my huni!) So there were some women there who were a part of the ministry, a woman there who I actually went to undergrad with and had no idea that she even knew Ayana and there was a woman there who attends the same church that I do and we had never met until she came to my house for the bridal shower that we had for Ayana! Craziness! Sweet, sweet, craziness!
I was also able to see another of my good Frans, Quiana, who was there to witness the union between Ayana and JR. Please send prayers up for Qui. She’s getting married in September and if you’re married, ever planned a wedding, or anything associated with the two, you know how pressing and full this time can be. I’m praying joy, grace, favor, peace, and love for her and her fiance, Josiah, during this time and beyond. Please agree with me on her behalf.
SO here are the last few flicks of the girls and me:
Good, good times. Really. We had so much fun. Sweet love, new friendships, good food, dancing, laughing, woooo! It doesn’t get any better than that!!
Just about a week ago my little brother took a lady by the hand, said some originally written vows, poured out his love and decided to spend his happily ever after with Mrs. Brendalyn Thompson. The two were married July 28 in Durham, NC and had a nice, contemporary wedding true to their own unique style. We were all swept away by their ceremony and danced the night away with the happy couple. I didn’t get to take as many pictures of this event but I definitely wanted to share the few that I have:
Boooooooooooooooooooooooom!! It’s official!! Wooooop Woooooop!!!
Big, sincere, loud, congratulations from my heart to both couples.
Seeing two people unite and decide to share their lives together can be one of the most beautiful events to enjoy. It is sentimental on so many different levels as it is an incredibly important and big decision for any one person to make. Almost every woman I know wants this. She wants someone with whom to share all of her life, for the rest of her life. It’s a holy thing, marriage. It’s a covenant. It’s one of God’s many dwelling places and it is an instant ministry through the testimony that it offers its witnesses. Everyone is watching. Everyone. Including our enemy. It’s no small wonder marriage is so hard.
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh.
22 And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
23 Then Adam said, This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man.
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other’s presence.
3 Now the serpent was more subtle and crafty than any living creature of the field which the Lord God had made. And he [Satan] said to the woman, Can it really be that God has said, You shall not eat from every tree of the garden? (Genesis 2:21-3:1)
Ever since Huni pointed it out to me, it has done nothing less than intrigued me that after the man and woman are united, free, naked and not embarrassed, having forsaken all others, moving in complete oneness and in agreement . . . we meet the serpent. And from the moment he enters the picture, he begins his evil regime to steal, kill and destroy like only he can.
We know what he’s all about so I won’t give him any more shine than that. I’ll simply say this: After we’ve cried with the couple, laughed with them and celebrated their decision, they really need our prayers. Actually from the moment we learn of their intention of courtship and all throughout the life of the marriage, they need our prayers! They need for us to hold them up and support them by speaking truth, kind words, and pouring into and onto them goodness, love and mercy as they move through life together knowing who their enemy is. And Frans, he is tireless. So should be our prayers.
Please pray that people would honor God in their marriages, their families and their lives together. Every time you want to open your mouth to criticize or critique another person’s marriage, pray. Submit yourself and your loved ones to Christ and trust Him to do the necessary work in you and them. Don’t let satan use you to disrupt God’s work–whether you agree with it or not. And Frans, I am talking to myself here! Wooo!
There are times when Huni and I get into it and at just about that moment when I am about to totally let my flesh have her way, spotlight, microphone, music and all, I get a glimpse of satan, reclined, knocking back root beer floats, eating hot buttered popcorn enjoying the show. And I come to a screeching halt———MAD, because I forgot who the real enemy is–it’s not huni. It’s satan. How quickly we forget.
We need each others prayers and support. Please choose to participate in giving God glory, not in helping satan fool us all.