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Marriage Letters: On the Names I Call You

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So, Monday came and went and I didn’t get a chance to post but I still wanted to write my marriage letter, because this is something I really believe in.  As best said by Amber over on www.therunamuck.com, “Call your marriage what it really is. Every Monday in April we’re writing letters because we believe that when we bless our own marriage, we bless the marriages of others.”  I’m right there with you, sista.  Check out some other letters here:  http://therunamuck.com/2012/04/09/marriage-letters-on-the-names-i-call-you/  Would love for you to join me and share your marriage letters on her site!

Dear Huni,

That’s my most favorite name to call you, Hunibun, because you really are so, so sweet.  I remember this particular point in our relationship, after we had been dating for a while, and your character had remained consistently honey-sweet, I asked you how long it would last.  I expected that just like all the others, it would soon run out and you’d be just like all the others.  But not you.  You’ve remained one of the sweetest, most consistent, most wonderful people that I have ever known.  Thank you for that.  Hunibun.

When I saw this topic, I knew exactly what I wanted to post for my letter.  I wanted to post an actual video of the song, but YouTube failed me (they had one, but not one that I liked enough to post here for you).  So, go and listen to Brandy sing He Is and know that, exactly what she says, as I said to you so many years ago, you are to me.  I know you’ll remember this. . . Prince Charming, angel, friend, lover, my one . . .  And more.  I love you.

Love,

pamjam, cornbread, babycakes, bae, your wife.

Marriage Letters: On Serving Together

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Hey Huni,

Remember I told you that I would be writing you letters each Monday in April on my blog?  Well, today’s letter is on serving together.  He’s in it, right?!!?

We’ve been talking about this so much lately as we try to figure out how He wants to use us and what He wants our family, as a unit, to stand for, and here He is in this moment encouraging me to think about this and get the conversation going again.  I just love the Lord.  I really appreciate Him pursuing us and making it a little bit easier for us to know His will for our lives.  While we are praying and waiting to hear from Him on this, I thought that I would spend a few minutes in my letter to you talking about the ways we serve together right now.

It seems like we’ve done a great deal of serving together though it might tend to fly under the radar.  Our marriage is ministry and it feeds directly into the hearts of our baby girls.  The care that we show to one another and the energy that we put into our marriage facilitates our ability to be the kind of shepherding-parents the Lord would have us to be.  I love you so, so much Emmanuel.  I am so grateful that the Lord saw fit to bless me with you.  You truly are a gift, a promise manifested of being able to see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.

Being married to me is not always easy because I do not always handle being a wife gracefully, but thank you so much for always fighting for me and for our marriage.  You are my warrior prince and our union rests in good hands with you. (hey, you give the Allstate man a run for his money!–you know, you’re in good hands with Allstate :0))

Our children are our ministry.  We work so hard with those two!  Whew!!  You and I both know that they are sweet, gifted and heaven sent but I appreciate having you by my side reminding me of it everyday.  Thank you for going to work everyday even though your heart beats for full time ministry in a different capacity.  Thank you for that sacrifice for our family ministry.  Thank you for coming home ready to be with us and enjoy us even though I know that you are tired from a long day of work.  Thank you for working so hard, huni.  As the leader of this ministry, you do a great job!  The girls and I are grateful, happy and we feel so blessed, cared for and protected by God through you.  Each day we have the opportunity to approach the world carefree and I get to take the time to pour into them and pull them into our vision so that they can grow into the women that God would have them to be.  And it starts with your diligence and determination to make our family be a vision of our resurrected savior. We are a force, the four of us.  Attitude, reflects leadership, captain. ;0)  (~Julius Campbell, Remember the Titans)

Lisa Bevere said (something like) “A woman who knows her purpose is not easily distracted.” And I’d have to say that that must be true for a marriage as well.  I’ve told you before that you are radical in the way you think. I’m not sure what’s our next move.  We have the bible study on Thursday nights, we have ministry with our extended family, our friends, our jobs, and our desires for other ministry opportunities.  We serve together in so many capacities.  It’s tough but it’s sweet.  There’s no telling where your radical mind and the Lord’s will will take us from here, but if we stay focused on Him and diligent to pursue our purpose . . .ain’t no mountain high enough.  I love you E.T.

pamela t.

See more marriage letters here:  http://therunamuck.com/2012/04/02/marriage-letters-on-serving-together/

Here is the note from Amber, the author of the blog that really encouraged me to join her and the others in this endeavor:  Please do join Seth, Joy, Scott, and me as we hold our marriages up to the light. Call your marriage what it really is. Every Monday in April we’re writing letters because we believe that when we bless our own marriage, we bless the marriages of others.

The Working Out of 1 Corinthians 13

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I had a boyfriend who inspired this quote.  I didn’t write this, and surely the person who did didn’t know my boyfriend at the time, but it fits him so much that it seems like she did.  He was an amazing guy.  Still is.  And so much more.  I know so well because I married him.  I get to spend my days and nights with this wonder and I am grateful.

I could have lived happily ever after in just the sheer the bliss of our dating days.  Survived on the love and passion alone.  We had so much fun and we thoroughly enjoyed each other and our time together.  We didn’t live in the same city so when we were together it was like wild abandon to the rest of the world as we squandered away all of our time just being together,  laughing, getting to know each other, falling in love at every opportunity.  One day,  I realized that I was tired of having to tearfully say goodbye to him and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.  I was hoping that he was feeling the same.  He was. :0)

I just knew that marriage would provide mounds of endless happiness and multiples of all that was good about our dating relationship.  I am so in love with him and I love him with so much of me but marriage is hard.  It is a big thing to deny myself for the good of him daily, moment by moment.  It is yet another thing to I Corinthians 13 love him.  And I fail.  I fail, I fail, I fail.  But I keep trying.

So, the other day I was over on The Run A Muck http://therunamuck.com/ and I saw such a brilliant and life giving idea:  writing marriage letters to your spouse in the post “Share the Beauty:  Marriage Letters Topics” (http://therunamuck.com/2012/03/25/share-the-beauty-marriage-letters-topics/).

This may not seem like such a big deal to you, but I have tried to do things similar to this and couldn’t hang in there because it just seemed like a load to do.  What Amber is suggesting is that we write to the prompts given each Monday in April.  It’s a simple investment in my marriage, one of the most valuable relationships on earth to me, and I’m learning that every little gesture for my marriage is a deposit into a life giving source to the deepest parts of me.  I’ll be sharing my letters each Monday either whole or in part with you here, in hopes that it will encourage you to do the same for your spouse.

For you single ladies out there, perhaps this is the time for you to write letters to God about the man you desire.  Be transparent with Him about how you feel about your relationship status right now be it single, divorced, or single but in a dating relationship.  Wherever you are in that journey, I can promise it’s worth waiting on Him to instruct you on what moves to make.  I can say that based on my own experiences and the experiences of others that have directly or indirectly effected me.  As I said, I love my man and I love being married but it’s tough sometimes.  In those times when it’s hardest, it’s good to know that I have a gift given directly from the hand of my Father, even when it doesn’t feel like it. You want to know that you know that you got your mate from Him.  He gives such good gifts.  And I want to take care of the gifts he graces my life with.

So I’ll be a letter writing sister each Monday in April.  I hope it blesses you as much as I believe it’s going to bless me, my huni and our sweet little marriage.